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Scruff doesn’t look good on me. I’m constantly working on my fashion sense and trying to wear cooler clothes, so yeah…I’m with you, but you know, it’s a process just like going to the gym/losing weight/etc.

I don’t doubt that the biggest problem with everything is probably my height, but I can’t do anything about it lol. All I can do is try to make everything else as good as possible. So yeah, thx.


on January 25, 2013 at 1:09 am
“I don’t doubt that the biggest problem with everything is probably my height, but I can’t do anything about it lol. All I can do is try to make everything else as good as possible.”

Basically this lol The thing is you can overcome a lot of the drawbacks of your height when you understand how attraction really works and specifically WHY tall guys get attraction easier than short guys. When you can communicate the same things a tall guy does, your height will still probably shoot you down here and there, but you’ll be amazed at how little a difference it actually makes.

When PUAs get good, we start doing stuff like going out looking sloppy or wearing shitty clothes or basically sabotaging ourselves looks-wise or going for girls that most people would think wouldn’t be attracted to us and forcing ourselves to game like we normally would, so when we still end up getting good results, those reference experiences drill into our brain how little the superficial stuff matters.

That’s why I have the strong belief that looks are pretty much irrelevant. I have the experience to back it up first-hand, and I’ve met and seen enough different types of guys gaming in-field to have racked up tons of experience second and third-hand that they don’t really matter.

But the guys who don’t go out and don’t have those reference experiences will shout me down and call me brainwashed and all that shit. I know I can pretty much ignore those guys and write them off as Keyboard Jockeys because if you’re going out a lot and your game is solid and you meet and hang out with a variety of guys with game and see them running their game and even compete with them for fun, you come to the same conclusions I have and other PUAs have.