I think Moxie got it mostly right on this one. We’re missing one crucial bit of information here, though. Does the OP want a relationship? Does she even know herself? First, she needs to know if she wants, and is ready for a committed, long term relationship. There seems to be an assumption that most women want this, but it’s not the case that all women in the dating pool are looking for that “right now”. If this woman just wants to have a good time, but keep the confusion to a minimum, she needs to reset the rules and stick to them this time, for her sake and his. I don’t mean that she has to be the one to set the rules because she’s the older one, but because she’s the one who’s bothered by the situation as it exists right now.
If she is ready for a long term, committed relationship right now, then she needs to stop seeing this guy. Just having him around for a quick fix (sex, companionship, whatever) makes it harder for her to focus on finding a better fit. She may be out there dating in a half-hearted sort of way, but not only will she not put the necessary effort into finding a match, the fact that in her opinion she and the boy (chose this word on purpose, guys) are not in a relationship may enable her to keep him around even after she meets someone else, and eventually undermine the success of another relationship.
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Vicki says:
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If she is ready for a long term, committed relationship right now, then she needs to stop seeing this guy. Just having him around for a quick fix (sex, companionship, whatever) makes it harder for her to focus on finding a better fit. She may be out there dating in a half-hearted sort of way, but not only will she not put the necessary effort into finding a match, the fact that in her opinion she and the boy (chose this word on purpose, guys) are not in a relationship may enable her to keep him around even after she meets someone else, and eventually undermine the success of another relationship.
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Vicki says:
https://pad.sra.uni-hannover.de/s/BNhyy4eyd
https://hedge.genius-loci.org/s/EF6On3eaV
https://doc.fung.uy/s/XS-Pcsfuo
https://pad.pythonf.de/s/WnU8bXCiI
https://notes.bolha.tools/s/XjDYon4S4
https://46.38.250.132/s/Kez-WWVda
https://wiki.atriina.com/s/aaSIn-igm
https://md.maglab.space/s/silvesterparty2425
https://doc.mabaoshan.com/s/c-XZt5h4B
https://codimd.mopos.cz/s/8CX13bvNx