“Just Be Yourself”
“Circumcised or Intact?!” Screw Her Preference!
Women: Career or Romance, Choose Your God
Dealing with a Breakup: 10 Tips for Men
29 Reasons Nightclubs Suck
Ladder Theory: Revised and Revisited
‘Understanding Women:’ A Book I’d Like to Destroy
Why Women Ruin Their Husband’s Friendships
Canada’s Marriage Fraud Crackdown
Mrs. Control Freak and Mr. Spineless Eat Out
Trunk’s Hypocritical, “Immature and Selfish” Take on Divorce
Jail for Facebook Rant about “Evil” Ex-Wife
Cheating Military Wife Wants it All
Alpha Redux?
As someone who had a first love who was an exceptionally-wonderful individual (of course I’m biased, but I believe even objective eyes would conclude he was a great guy) and who had mostly-positive experiences with him, I think I’m in that category of pple who needs to watch out for, and guard vs, the potentially negative LT consequences. I don’t have Facebook though, and have no interest in it. Like a similar quote goes, I regard FB with “an indifference closely bordering on aversion”. I agree social media has a role to play in this.
Then again, other studies showed (unsurprisingly) young women in ‘bad’ early rships are at risk for other problems. Their emotional well-being, self-esteem etc suffers when this happens during their formative years (Soller, 2014). Especially because women apparently have more of their identity tied up in rships. I found some elements of this study a bit dodgy though–like the conclusions and the definitions used, if u ever look it up–but I think overall it makes sense that pple–esp women–can be warped from ‘bad’ early rships, just like they can be from good ones.
44
Alana says:
April 1, 2015 at 2:23 pm
I agree with what Deti says about girls at this age choosing partners who they are Very attracted to, and that is a factor here. Most of them will have relatively little thought about more pragmatic concerns. Unfortunately when they later choose a partner based partly on characteristics like his job, they may even look back fondly to the earlier loves as a time when ‘love’ was more ‘pure’–ie based more purely on chemistry and separated from the pragmatic, unromantic considerations (will he make a good dad? can he support a family? etc); instead of blaming themselves for their choices and unhappiness, they may blame their husbands. But I think this is a worst-case scenario–of course not all women will feel this, and not all who feel it will act on it.
“Circumcised or Intact?!” Screw Her Preference!
Women: Career or Romance, Choose Your God
Dealing with a Breakup: 10 Tips for Men
29 Reasons Nightclubs Suck
Ladder Theory: Revised and Revisited
‘Understanding Women:’ A Book I’d Like to Destroy
Why Women Ruin Their Husband’s Friendships
Canada’s Marriage Fraud Crackdown
Mrs. Control Freak and Mr. Spineless Eat Out
Trunk’s Hypocritical, “Immature and Selfish” Take on Divorce
Jail for Facebook Rant about “Evil” Ex-Wife
Cheating Military Wife Wants it All
Alpha Redux?
As someone who had a first love who was an exceptionally-wonderful individual (of course I’m biased, but I believe even objective eyes would conclude he was a great guy) and who had mostly-positive experiences with him, I think I’m in that category of pple who needs to watch out for, and guard vs, the potentially negative LT consequences. I don’t have Facebook though, and have no interest in it. Like a similar quote goes, I regard FB with “an indifference closely bordering on aversion”. I agree social media has a role to play in this.
Then again, other studies showed (unsurprisingly) young women in ‘bad’ early rships are at risk for other problems. Their emotional well-being, self-esteem etc suffers when this happens during their formative years (Soller, 2014). Especially because women apparently have more of their identity tied up in rships. I found some elements of this study a bit dodgy though–like the conclusions and the definitions used, if u ever look it up–but I think overall it makes sense that pple–esp women–can be warped from ‘bad’ early rships, just like they can be from good ones.
44
Alana says:
April 1, 2015 at 2:23 pm
I agree with what Deti says about girls at this age choosing partners who they are Very attracted to, and that is a factor here. Most of them will have relatively little thought about more pragmatic concerns. Unfortunately when they later choose a partner based partly on characteristics like his job, they may even look back fondly to the earlier loves as a time when ‘love’ was more ‘pure’–ie based more purely on chemistry and separated from the pragmatic, unromantic considerations (will he make a good dad? can he support a family? etc); instead of blaming themselves for their choices and unhappiness, they may blame their husbands. But I think this is a worst-case scenario–of course not all women will feel this, and not all who feel it will act on it.