The herd isnt the problem
Take it apart for relationships and make it about jobs
You are “the one”
Looks matter, but looks is not what gets you laid
You and the herd
The limits on your mind
The stockholm codependent approval seeking syndrome
What are your chances of hitting a homerun?
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Han Solo says:
July 5, 2013 at 10:47 am
@Obs
For those content with a lower-class or poor socio-economic lifestyle (which really isn’t poor because they have food, an apartment, tv, computer, cell-phone, and often a car) then they are living in a certain approximate version of paradise island where they don’t have to do that much because they can get welfare, food stamps and work a 40-hr/wk job.
However, if poor women aspire to rise to the middle class or higher then most of them need to work smarter and work harder and find a similarly achieving man to marry. And there probably aren’t that many such men she will come into contact that also want her. Such women apparently value the freedom to go for out-of-their-league good guys or sexy badboys that are not interested in much more than sex for a season with these women. Once women reach a certain level of material security (and that will depend a lot on their expectations and the setting they were raised in) then they will often choose more to follow their hypergamous instincts instead of just look for an equal that might help them rise in SES but not make them tingle.
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Han Solo says:
July 5, 2013 at 10:51 am
@Ted
Agree 100% with your take on the poor. Most of the poor in the developed world are pretty damn well off when compared to truly poor nations like Haiti, Bangladesh and Zimbabwe.
Take it apart for relationships and make it about jobs
You are “the one”
Looks matter, but looks is not what gets you laid
You and the herd
The limits on your mind
The stockholm codependent approval seeking syndrome
What are your chances of hitting a homerun?
16
Han Solo says:
July 5, 2013 at 10:47 am
@Obs
For those content with a lower-class or poor socio-economic lifestyle (which really isn’t poor because they have food, an apartment, tv, computer, cell-phone, and often a car) then they are living in a certain approximate version of paradise island where they don’t have to do that much because they can get welfare, food stamps and work a 40-hr/wk job.
However, if poor women aspire to rise to the middle class or higher then most of them need to work smarter and work harder and find a similarly achieving man to marry. And there probably aren’t that many such men she will come into contact that also want her. Such women apparently value the freedom to go for out-of-their-league good guys or sexy badboys that are not interested in much more than sex for a season with these women. Once women reach a certain level of material security (and that will depend a lot on their expectations and the setting they were raised in) then they will often choose more to follow their hypergamous instincts instead of just look for an equal that might help them rise in SES but not make them tingle.
17
Han Solo says:
July 5, 2013 at 10:51 am
@Ted
Agree 100% with your take on the poor. Most of the poor in the developed world are pretty damn well off when compared to truly poor nations like Haiti, Bangladesh and Zimbabwe.